Wedding Theme; Picking The Best One For The Both Of You

Planning a wedding is certainly an exciting time in the life of any couple. There are so many things to do, and so many things to consider, however, that it can be somewhat of an overwhelming experience as well.

== Planning Your Theme Together ==

Planning a wedding may well be the first big thing you do as a couple, and it is important to go through that planning process as a team.

There are many different wedding themes, from fun and casual outdoor weddings to the most elaborate, fairy tale weddings. It is important for the couple to talk about what they both want in their wedding and what theme is appropriate to each of them.

== Wedding Planning Guides And Bridal Magazines ==

When looking for the perfect theme for your wedding, many couples like to browse the many wedding planning guides and bridal magazines on the market. You may be able to find wedding themes you would never have thought of.

For instance, one of the most popular types of wedding in recent years has been the so-called destination wedding. The beauty of such a wedding is that the couple’s family and friends gather in a resort location, for the wedding, reception, and possibly some fun on the beach.

While not every couple will be able to afford the extravagance of a wedding at a five star resort, these types of theme weddings can give the couple some great ideas. Instead of a beach resort, the couple may choose to host a wedding reception at poolside.

== Ethnic Wedding Themes ==

Ethnic themed weddings are also increasingly popular, and they can be a great choice that couples can agree on. From Irish weddings to Hawaiian weddings, these themes can be a great way plan an extra special wedding ceremony.

== Start Planning Early ==

No matter what themes the bride and groom to be choose, it is important to start the wedding planning process early. Whether your taste and style runs to the simple or the elaborate, planning a wedding and finding the right wedding theme will take some time. It is important to plan early so that you can enjoy the process without being stressed.

The Monogram Theme Wedding

Monograms are a huge trend in weddings, to the point where they feature strongly in some, and in others, provide the actual theme. And what’s not to like about monograms? They’re elegant, understated, versatile, and a dramatic visual reminder of your new life together.

Ideas for including monograms

You’ll find them popping up in more and more places throughout the reception, and sometimes even prior to it. Here are some ways that brides include monograms:

  • embossed, stamped or printed bridal stationary
  • custom postage stamps (seewww.funstamps.com)
  • stationary seals or stickers 
  • painted aisle runners
  • printed bridal bouquet ribbons
  • bridal underwear or garter
  • bridal handkerchief
  • accent to bridal train, veil or gown
  • ring bearer’s pillow 
  • stamped or printed out-of-town bags
  • bridesmaids’ totes 
  • guestbook
  • engraved guestbook pen
  • tablecloths
  • chair covers
  • place cards and menus
  • cocktail napkins
  • coasters
  • centerpieces
  • engraved cake server set
  • cake embellishment
  • wood, wire, metal, chocolate or acrylic monogram cake topper
  • monogram wreaths of silk or real flowers
  • fabric wall or door banners
  • champagne flutes
  • bottled water labels
  • “tears of joy” packs
  • monogrammed wedding favors: cookies, ornaments, shot glasses, votive candles, chocolates, petit fours, notepads, favor boxes
  • dance floor “gobo” projections

How do I get a monogram?

You make it! Many brides find they can “roll their own” using a readily-available software program such as Microsoft Word or PowerPoint. If you’re a graphic designer or have access to high-end tools, you’d probably prefer Adobe Illustrator, but Word or PowerPoint are also fine. If you’ve played around but don’t like the results, call on an arty friend.

To design your monogram in Microsoft Word:

Choose Insert -> Textbox. Type and format the letter the way you like it. Do this three times. Now click on all textboxes and choose Format->Textbox. Choose Color: No Fill (so you can overlap letters) and Line: No Line. Select all letters, right click, and choose Group to lock in the arrangement. You can now copy your image into Microsoft Paint and save in several formats, such as JPEG.

To design your monogram in PowerPoint:

You’ll want to use “Word Art” to create your letters. Click on the blue tilted “A” on the bottom toolbar for each letter. Format them to your liking. When you’re done designing, select all the letters, right-click, and choose Grouping->Group. Now you can click on your image and right-click for Save as Image. PowerPoint lets you save directly in formats like JPEG, PNG and TIFF.

Some more design tips:

The bride’s initial goes first in a monogram. When the bride takes the groom’s last name, the order is: bride’s first initial, shared last initial (usually larger), groom’s first initial.

If the bride keeps her own last name, one option is four-initial monogram (bride’s first, bride’s last, groom’s last, groom’s first). Or just join the couple’s first names with an ampersand (Jenny & Mike).

Some etiquette tips:

It’s somewhat frowned upon to use your couples monogram before you’re actually married. So, your reception’s clearly a green light, but you might want to skip using it on your invites. The ceremony itself is sort of a Ms. Manners gray area. Some brides uphold the spirit (if not the letter) of the “law” by including the monogram in a not-so-public ceremonial spot, such as a garter, or inside the dress.

Of course, these being modern times, some brides just include the monogram wherever and whenever they want.

Great places to get the fancy fonts brides crave, for free:

DIY monogrammed aisle runner

It’s not hard to create your own monogrammed aisle runner, and it makes a big splash. If you have a sewing machine, you can buy and hem the fabric for next to nothing. Now you just need some fabric paint in black or your wedding colors, a pencil, an exacto knife and some cardstock. You also need to decide where you want to place the monogram. Some aisle runners feature a monogram at the bottom, where the procession begins; the top, where the couple stands; and in the middle.

Print out your monogram and blow it up to your desired size on a copying machine. (If your aisle fabric is on the sheer side, you can now trace your monogram directly onto the fabric with pencil. Fill in with fabric paint, and you’re done.) Otherwise, tape the enlarged monogram onto the cardstock and cut out the shape with an exacto knife. Trace inside your new template lightly with pencil. Fill in with fabric paint. Follow the same procedure to make your own monogrammed table runners or even chair covers.

The dance floor monogram

A dramatic and memorable way to include your monogram is to project it onto the dance floor during the reception. As fun as this is, though, it’s not cheap and sometimes not easy. To project a monogram, you need to buy a custom metal plate, called a “gobo.” Custom gobo manufacturers are easily found online. The gobo itself usually costs over $100, but once made, you then need specific lights equipped with a pattern holder to use the gobo. It’s possible that your venue, or your DJ, will be able to provide these lights or help you locate a place from which to rent them.

A final tip

Now that you have some ideas for incorporating monograms in your wedding, remember the essence of elegance is restraint. It’s easy to overdo monograms, so mix them up contrasting touches, such as soft and romantic floral arrangements, to warm up the monogram’s cool and classic feel.

The Joys of Selecting Wedding Themes

For the imaginative couple, you may want to break away from the traditional church and reception hall theme. And many more couples are trying something outside of this standard, so you’re sure to find whatever the two of you can think of.

What do you like?

Many couples come up with wedding themes based on where they met or what they like to do together. For example, a couple that met in a particular city may want to celebrate that city, or even hold the nuptials there.

Although more extreme, some couples have exchanged vows while jumping out of an airplane or skiing down a mountain. Why not pledge your love in the waters of a tropical island or create a traditional renaissance fair?

Make up a list of all of the things that you might like for your wedding. Let it be everything that you could imagine enjoying. This celebration is for the two of you, so let the wedding reflect the couple that you are.

Showing off

Creating your dream day may be as simple as a few well-placed decorations or an island setting. For a tropical wedding, you may want to stand on the beaches of a favourite vacation place or just decorate the reception hall like a luau. The bridesmaids can wear leis and the groomsmen can wear sandals.

If you’re looking for a more renaissance themed wedding, then you may be able to capture this with medieval music or entertainment—a jester might be a great addition. Of course, the outfits that you wear will reflect your theme. A bride dressed as Guinevere and the groom as Lancelot would make for beautiful pictures.

Try to find the recognizable details in the theme of your wedding and incorporate them into the decorating plan. You may also want to find food that would compliment the theme as well. A roasted pig can make a great conversation piece as well as dinner.

And the theme can even begin with the invitations. Try to find a way to signal to your guests the theme of your wedding. Some couples have even had their guest dress the part of the wedding theme as well. It’s like a great big costume party and a trip back in time.

Of course, don’t make it too strange or no one will go along. An alien themed wedding might seem like a good idea, but if the wedding party is that only one that plays the part, then it can be more awkward than anything.

But it’s your wedding!

Spotlight on the Asian-Themed Wedding

Asian-themed weddings are on the rise, and at first this might come as a surprise. After all, nothing could seem further from the Laura Ashley vision we get when thinking of a wedding.

And in fact, that’s one of the forces behind the rising popularity of the Asian-themed wedding: how it turns things upside-down. In fact, in a Chinese-style wedding, white is bad (it’s the color of death) and red and black are good (they’re the colors of luck and prosperity).

You might wonder whether brides that plan Asian-themed weddings are Asian (or marrying someone who is). The answer is, sometimes. Surprisingly often, they aren’t, and the choice is purely aesthetic.

Today’s trends break down into two main types of Asian-themed weddings: the Japanese or “Zen” style, which values simplicity and nature, and the more riotous Chinese style, which bristles with bright colors and shiny fabrics.

Although either choice may surprise some older guests, the bride may find her personal values deeply expressed in the Asian-themed wedding. After all, the usual wedding is a certain kind of pageant: the couple pretends to be royalty for a day, and lavishly entertain a large party – seemingly without a care, though they rack up huge debt to do so.

Brides drawn to the Zen-style ceremony often want to avoid the “royalty pageant” and simplify the ceremony (ironically, this can result in greater elegance for the price tag). This type of bride might read “voluntary simplicity” books, care about the environment, enjoy an uncluttered house or apartment with a handful of Japanese accents (Shoji lanterns and screens, for example) and find herself attracted to natural materials. She may feel freed by a simpler wedding gown, and carry an unfussy bouquet of calla lilies. Her centerpieces might be lanterns surrounded by black and white stones. For favors, she might give out fortune cookies placed in take-out boxes and topped off with chopsticks.

Other brides find aspects of tradition stifling, so they mix up their ceremony with Chinese-style zest. This bride might dress her bridesmaids in glowing red (or slinky black!) Cheongsams, dresses with high collars and slit sides. She’ll hand them parasols instead of nosegays, and pass out chopsticks for their hair. Her own gown might be of gorgeous brocade in red, orange or gold. Perhaps she’ll wrap up the ceremony with a butterfly release and hand out lucky bamboo stalks as wedding favors. This bride doesn’t mind charting her own course in social affairs, and she loves the Chinese devotion to parents and children.

In either case, the Asian-themed wedding is a great way to tie your ceremony to your personal values. Perhaps the thought of such a wedding crossed your mind, but you thought you had to be Asian? The fact is, Asian traditions and trends have been shaping Americans deeply since the 1960s. Maybe it’s time to ask yourself this: which type of Asian-themed bride are you?

Going Back In Time: Plan A Renaissance Period Wedding

With the romantic feelings in the air, it’s no wonder that a classic theme of weddings is the renaissance or medieval times. There is a sense of chivalry and grace in that period that is easily captured for a wedding theme.

Creating the scene

The first thing that helps a renaissance themed wedding is the actual setting. If there is an older church or an outdoor setting that you can agree upon, it’s best to start there. The renaissance was a time where people were closer to nature, so incorporating something outdoors might be nice.

You could decorate the area with a lot of simple bunches of flowers. Think of the times as simpler and you’re sure to find even more ideas. Ribbons make for wonderful decorations as well. They can be tied to pews or to chairs as a subtle touch of beauty.

Your wedding party attire will also make an impression. The bride may want to wear something long and flowing with bell sleeves and an intricate bodice. Anything that looks like a corset is beautiful, though they’re much more comfortable now.

The groom is a little trickier as many men don’t want to wear leggings or tights, but a luxurious coat with a thick brocade pattern might be the perfect way to show his dedication to the theme. Bridesmaids and groomsmen can have different colored versions of the outfits.

You might also want to ask your guests to come in similar attire. Just make a notation on the invitation and have the entire setting be transported back into time.

All in the details

The ceremony can have a more nature-oriented theme as well. This can include the lighting of candles, as well as the jumping of the broom and sword. This is an African tradition that blends in quite well. This is the signal that the new couple will be working together from that moment on.

To truly capture the renaissance theme, it’s the details that matter. Give your guests small sachets of lavender or some other fragrant herb. Attach some folklore to it as well. Or you can have traditional Celtic or medieval musicians play for the reception.

A feast of roasted pig or lamb would also be appropriate–though you don’t have to eat it straight off the bone, like in days of old. Have plenty of drink and candles and you’re well on your way to a renaissance themed wedding.

Give your guests a hint of the theme by including a renaissance poem in the invitation, or sealing them with wax and your new monogram. Themed weddings are all about the details. Do some research and find some that work for you.

Wedding Speeches 101

If you’re planning a wedding or planning on being in one, then the question of wedding speeches is bound to come up.

Who gives the speeches

Well, this is really up to the couple that’s getting married, but there seems to be a normal list of people that are expected to say something.

The wedding party usually has the most members talking about the bride or the groom. The Best Man and Matron or Maid of Honor are the ones that will be giving short speeches before dinner in most cases. Other members of the party can also speak if the couple chooses.

The father of the bride usually gives a speech to the guests, thanking them for coming as well as saying a word or two to the groom. The couple themselves may also want to talk to the guests, giving them thanks and their love.

Of course, the reception isn’t the only place for speeches. Many times, the wedding rehearsal has one or two of the couple’s parents speaking as well.

As many people as the couple wants can speak, but what if you’re the one that’s asked?

Before you stand up

If you’re asked to give a speech, no doubt you’re nervous and at a loss for what to say. The best advice is to keep your speech short and simple, so that your nerves don’t have time to take over and so that your creativity isn’t sapped.

Make a list of all of the things that you admire and love about the couple or half of the couple. If you’ve been friends for a while, you may want to include a joke or a story. The best advice is to keep the story clean though—their parents may not want to know what they’ve done.

Talk about the person and then end with some sort of revelation or note of congratulation. Raise your glass and toast the couple. It’s really as easy as that.

If you’re afraid that you’ll become nervous, make sure that you rehearse the speech often, writing it well in advance. Or you can just focus on your friend as you give the speech and avoid making eye contact out into the reception crowd.

Speeches are a wonderful way to give thanks to the guest and to members of the new couple. Use your heart as a guide, and you’re sure to get it right.

Never “Wing” A Wedding Speech!

The one thing you don’t want to do on the day of the wedding is stand up to make your speech and try to “wing” it. Trying to make a speech up off the top of your head is a recipe for disaster. Chances are you’ll forget what you wanted to say, ramble on about unrelated matters, and say some things you may later wish you hadn’t.

“Now wait,” you may be saying, “I’ve seen plenty of people who did great jobs and they seemed to be giving a completely spontaneous speech.” Fair enough, but the key word here is “seemed.” The majority of speeches we see, especially the ones that appear to be spontaneous and unplanned, are just the opposite. These speeches have been planned to such an extent that the speaker can deliver them so that it appears the words are coming to him off the top of his head. This type of speaking is known as extemporaneous.

Extemporaneous speaking allows you to plan out what you want to say but also forces you to practice it so that you can deliver your words with only a handful of notes instead of a word-for-word manuscript. There are a number of reasons why extemporaneous speaking is the best choice for a wedding speech:

• Because you aren’t reading a manuscript, you will be able to make eye contact with guests which adds a sense of sincerity and warmth to your speech.

• Because you aren’t making the speech up as you go along, you can make sure to include all of the points you want to make. You won’t leave anything out.

• Because you are going to practice the speech, you’ll feel more comfortable with the words and with the delivery. By the time you’re ready for the actual speech, you’ll be prepared.

• Because people tend to sound monotone when they read something word for word aloud, extemporaneous speaking sounds more natural and more pleasing to the audience’s ears.

As you can clearly see, opting for an extemporaneous speech is going to increase the likelihood of your public speaking event going well because it will eliminate many of the problems inexperienced speakers typically encounter.

Give Something Different With a Unique Wedding Shower Gift

Wedding shower gifts can be as unique as the recipient. The shower organizer should consider the personality, style and interests of the bride when planning the party. With a wedding shower theme that fits the unique qualities of the bride, shower guests will be prompted to use their imaginations to brainstorm creative gift ideas.

Love of the Outdoors

For the outdoorsy bride-to-be, organize an adventurous shower activity such as mountain biking, rock climbing or camping. Unique wedding shower gifts could include items such as a cozy tent, a sleeping bag for two, and a book on romantic outdoor getaways.

Culinary Gifts

If the bride lacks confidence in her cooking skills, why not organize her shower around a culinary theme. The shower activity may include a cooking demonstration or wine tasting event. All attendees would be asked to bring three of their favorite personal recipes, written on cards; the cards would then be presented to the bride in a special recipe box or book. Guests could bring shower gifts such as live herb-garden starts, a serving tray for breakfast in bed or a picnic basket for two.

New Homeowner Gifts

For the couple about to move into their first home, organize a home improvement shower. Gifts could include tool sets, books on household repairs or decorating tips, and lawn tools such as rakes, hoes and leaf blowers.

Honeymoon Gifts

Is the couple about to embark on a tropical honeymoon? Organize a luau shower, with leis, grass-skirted tables and inflatable palm trees. Shower gifts might include scuba lessons, snorkeling equipment, his and hers beach towels, or a gift certificate for a couples massage at their honeymoon resort.

Artistic Gifts

Don’t leave the happy couple staring at blank walls. Organize a shower where each guest brings a piece of art to decorate the newlywed home. The gifts do not necessarily need to be expensive; guests can acquire unique items from local Saturday markets or craft fairs. Shower guests may even wish to contribute a special painting or framed photograph of their own creation. Along with filling their home, the wedding shower gifts will hold special significance to the newlyweds as it will remind them of close friends and family members.

Wonderful White Gold Wedding Rings

The elegant and sophisticated look of glittering, gleaming gold. There’s nothing quite like it.

Some people never grow tired of the look of pure gold jewelry. Gold, being our most precious metal, is often a first choice among couples looking for that perfect gold wedding ring.

While yellow gold remains very popular with the wedding crowd. Many people prefer the brilliant hue of a white gold wedding ring.

White gold will look beautiful on you whether you’re a man or a woman. You can find online a great selection of white gold diamond wedding rings and white gold wedding ring sets. Also, if you’re looking for something a little fancier that can also become a piece of wonderful keepsake jewelry, white gold makes a very elegant engraved wedding ring that can be passed on to future generations.

The one thing you need to be aware of when buying a white gold wedding ring is that it will need periodic maintenance in order to keep it’s luster.

To obtain it’s much desired glittering white color, white gold is coated with another alloy called Rhodium (the natural color of white gold is really light gray). Rhodium will wear down after a while, so to maintain your ring’s luster, you’ll need to visit your local jeweler about every 12-18 months and have it re-plated with a new coating of Rhodium. The cost for this should be very reasonable.

Whether you’re looking for a plain gold wedding band, or a wedding ring with sparkling diamonds, white gold is an excellent choice for those looking for something a little extra special.

Wedding Rings – How to Choose a Perfect Ring

Selecting a wedding ring isn’t as easy as it looks. You are going to wear your ring for the rest of your life, so it should be something you won’t get tired of in a couple years. You will have to look at and try on many different rings before you come to a final decision and, being an intelligent consumer, you should know what your options are.

First, you will have to decide how much you can afford to spend. Then, with your budget in mind, choose the material you want your ring made of.

Wedding ring materials can be:

    • 14K or 18K yellow gold, classic and still very popular for wedding and engagement rings

 

    • white gold, which is gaining popularity because it looks stylish and very modern. Also white gold can be worn with silver or platinum jewelry and it goes with most fabrics

 

    • platinum is one of the hardest metals, which in itself makes platinum a suitable symbol for enduring love. It is also very pure: while 18 K gold contains only 75% gold, most platinum jewelry is 95% platinum.
    • Platinum rings look similar to white gold, are very elegant and stylish, don’t scratch and don’t loose their look with the passing years. Platinum rings are the most expensive but, considering that you will wear your ring for the rest of your life, that doesn’t really matter for many couples

 

    • titanium is long lasting, light and not very expensive, so it has recently became a very popular material for wedding rings. Titanium rings are similar in appearance to white gold rings but they are so light that you can hardly feel one on your finger. Titanium is a particularly popular material for men’s wedding rings

When choosing the material, think of what would work best with your clothes and the other jewelry you usually wear. Is your jewelry box filled with gold or silver? If your favorite pieces are silver, it is a good idea to get a white gold, titanium or platinum wedding ring. Alternatively, you could get two tone ring – usually made from white and yellow gold. This type of ring would match silver jewelry as well as gold.

Some women also want to match their wedding rings with their engagement rings. This is certainly something to take into consideration, if you plan to wear both rings on the same hand. Another option is to wear your wedding ring on the left hand and your engagement ring on your right hand – in which case they should probably still be the same color, but don’t have to match so closely.

Which wedding ring style to choose?

There are many styles available, so everybody can find a ring to suit their tastes. When it comes to style, though, the first thing you have to decide is if you both will wear similar rings or if each will select one that expresses his or her personality. The most popular styles are:

    • Traditional plain bands – even though they are plain, they will always be stylish and fashionable. These are also best suited for men who aren’t accustomed to wearing jewelry

 

    • Bands with beaded edges are a little more elaborate

 

    • Two-tone bands which can be worn with either gold or silver jewelry

 

    • Celtic wedding rings are really hot how. Covered with ancient knotwork designs, they look really stylish

 

    • Solitaire rings with a single precious stone

 

    • Solitaries with accents – rings with a large stone and several smaller stones around it

 

    • Channel diamond rings

The best gem stones for wedding rings

Diamonds are unbeatable favorites for wedding rings and with good reason – not only are diamonds the most beautiful and expensive of all precious stones, but they are also the hardest. Other hard stones are rubies and sapphires. Gemstones like amethyst or aquamarine are too soft, which makes them unsuitable for a wedding ring that you are going to wear every day.

No matter which style and material you chose, you want a ring that would be comfortable on your finger. For this reason it is always best to go with a ring that is smooth around the edges.